Judges 21:25 says "In those days there was no king in Israel; everyone did what was right in his own eyes."
Yesterday I read in astonishment in the "No Greater Joy" magazine advice that Michael Pearl gave to a wife whose husband is committing adultery with another woman at his place of work. His place of work?? Some "ministry". The woman makes comments like this: "This is the second time this has happened. My husband is a saved man in the ministry, and this girl has a high position in the ministry as well. I have decided to keep my mouth shut, because I don't want my husband's ministry to have a scar." Later she says, "I don't want to do anything that will destroy his ministry."
Mr. Pearl tells her to fight for her man. To go to the woman and confront her. To confront her husband and follow him to work if necessary.
Okay, what is shocking to me and down right nuts is FIRST the woman's comments and SECOND Mr. Pearl's response.
We in the modern American evangelical church have completely decided that we can do what is right in our own eyes. What IS right is contained in the Scriptures, the truth of God's Word. "Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth." Jesus said in John 17:17.
But for some reason, we think we can bypass what the Bible tells us when we start trying to solve real life problems. What Scriptures could possibly address this woman's problems?
"You have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall not commit adultery. But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matt. 5:27-28 That man is committing adultery. He is guilty of sin. He needs to repent and confess and then adjust his life because he has disqualified himself from the ministry. In I Timothy it clearly says that someone in a position of the ministry, bishop, deacon, overseer, whatever, is to be BLAMELESS. (Also he is to be a man--what is a woman doing in a high position in a ministry???--either way the whole thing is a mess).
Okay for the wife, what is she to do??? "Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to like a heathen and a tax collector." Matthew 18: 15-17.
She has no business having to confront that other woman. It is her husband's sin, he is guilty and responsible. His job is to be a truthful, accurate picture of Christ to His Bride. He is lying about who Christ is and sinning against God and his wife. If she talks to her husband and wins him then the two of them need to work through it until there are fruits of repentance and he STILL needs to step down from all ministry or "the Lord's work". If he will not repent (remember this is the second time) and he will not do what is right, she needs to go to her elders and have them start to work with her husband. His reputation before God is already ruined!!!! Who cares what his reputation is before man??????
I realize that there would be very FEW elders that any wife could trust to faithfully and Biblically handle such a circumstance. However, we still need to follow God's prescription and not our own. I also realize that most women who would follow what is God's plan in such a mess would probably be told that she is responsible for her husband's infidelity, but she is not. Things are upside down. The church is calling what is good evil and what is evil good (Isaiah 5:20). God have mercy upon us all.
Posted by -- Queen Lucy